The heart falls for what it knows.
And in my journey of rediscovering love… I realized I had misunderstood it for a long time.
Love from others felt like a space in my heart that I needed to fill.
So I searched for it… in the wrong places.
In toxic friendships.
In fantasies that were never real.
Because the heart falls for what it knows, I misread the signs.
When I felt anxious around someone, I called it chemistry.
I didn’t know any better.
When a friend depended on me so much that it erased my boundaries, I felt needed.
I didn’t see the codependency.
Even at work… I tied love and security to performance.
I overworked just to feel safe. Just to feel valued.
Because the heart falls for what it knows, breaking these patterns is not easy.
Especially when they once felt like home.
But when you start to unlearn them… something shifts.
You feel lighter.
Freer.
You begin to see love differently.
You start to recognize the difference between comfort and control.
Between connection and insecurity.
Between being loved… and being used.
And slowly, you realize…
Love is not something you chase.
It lives in you, moves through you, and surrounds you.
I feel deeply grateful that I am finally seeing love through a clearer lens.
And I want that for you, too.
So take a moment and ask yourself:
What has your heart been used to?
And is it truly what you need?
Imagine having lived your whole life in a confined, windowless room.
The air feels tight… but familiar.
Now, open the door and step outside... breathe in the crisp, fresh air for the very first time.
Feel the space around you.
That is what love feels like! 
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